Symptoms and Developments
I have felt movement… Light tapping sensations that seem like my baby is stretching his limbs and colliding with the walls of the uterus.
They say that with a second baby, mothers are often more sensitive to the movements of the baby and generally detect movements earlier. Somehow this wasn’t so for me. With Gavin, I felt his movements from as early as the fourth month – I detected vague sensations of bubbles popping in my belly which are indicative of the feathery movements of the foetus. Somehow with Gareth (yes, that’s the name we’ve decided to call him for now), I didn’t feel anything until recently.
I partly suspect it is because I’ve been more distracted during this pregnancy. How not to be distracted when you have a toddler demanding your attention at every turn?
Bowel movement has also slowed down and I have fissures again. Dang! Need to increase the fiber intake with more green smoothies. This happened during the first pregnancy and is apparently due to the hormones slowing down the digestive process for better absorption of nutrients for the baby. It also means that going to the toilet becomes a little more difficult and that anal fissures and haemorrhoids are a possible side effect.
On the flip side, the hormones are doing wonders to my hair that no hair care treatment has ever been able to do. My SIL2 looked at me one evening and asked what I had done to my hair because it was looking good. I guess it’s called pregnant hormones. Hairfall has dropped as well and my hair is beginning to feel thicker. Ah, I love this part of the pregnancy. It is unfortunate that it doesn’t last after the pregnancy is over.
That’s about it for developing symptoms.
Gavin and the Baby
Gavin, on the other hand, is showing a very promising reaction towards the baby. Although he occasionally still insists that I have a baby girl in my tummy (thanks SIL2! Your brainwashing was a tad too effective!), he has been displaying very loving and sweet gestures from an older brother. He strokes my belly when he nurses, he often asks to “see” the baby and kisses my belly, and he “plays” with the baby by blowing raspberries on my belly.
Recently, I took him to see a friend who had just delivered a baby. I carried the baby for a length of time and Gavin behaved admirably! He didn’t fuss or fret, nor was he jealous of my attention to the baby. When the baby started crying, he ran over to her day cot, peered over the side and said, “Baby don’t cry…”
Admittedly this was just a short visit and the baby isn’t exactly a part of Gavin’s everyday life so the physical threat is not really there. Nevertheless, I feel encouraged.
Pregnant Mummy Concerns
Lately, I have been wondering whether I still remember how to look after a newborn baby. Even though I only did it a little over two years ago, it sometimes feels like a lifetime ago when I handled Gavin as a newborn. With Gavin being such a hardy toddler who can be manhandled without fear of hurting him, I almost wonder if I still have what it takes to handle the more fragile newborn.
When I visited my friend and her newborn, I dare not even touch the baby for fear of “mishandling” her. On our third visit, however, she was crying in her cot and my friend was otherwise occupied, so my friend’s mother encouraged me to pick the baby up. I was delighted (and relieved) to discover I still had what it took to settle the baby, recognise the signs of hunger, and help the baby fall back to sleep.
Let’s hope the “touch” is still there when Gareth is born…