After our last disastrous “date” back when I was still pregnant with Gareth, I didn’t think hubby and I would ever get a chance to have a “date” again for at least another two years. However, it looks like all my efforts to express milk and occasionally allow my MIL to bottle feed Gareth has paid off. Gareth feeds like a champ on the bottle or the breast. Since he was okay at home without us, the only other thing we had to deal with was to convince Gavin to allow Mummy and Daddy to go out without him.
Feeling brave, hubby suggested a movie date on my birthday. The movie was Avatar – two hours and forty-five minutes, no less, and on Gold Class at The Gardens. Recalling what happened the last time when we thought we could wing it, only to end up with no movie tickets, hubby bought our tickets in advance. RM120 for two Gold Class seats – the most expensive movie I’ve ever been to, but hey, it was my birthday after all…
Since the time I was in hospital with Gareth, we have had on and off successes encouraging Gavin to go out without me. Although my ILs have attributed it to the fact that Gavin is just too attached to me, I strongly suspect it has more to do with the fact that Gareth is also at home. Nevertheless, the key to a successful date out with hubby lay in our ability to adequately occupy Gavin with something so that he wouldn’t come looking for us until we were ready to come home.
These days, we have found that a trip to my SIL’s shop is all that it takes to get Gavin fired up and ready to leave the house. So that was supposedly our secret weapon. My MIL would stay home with Gareth and both my SILs would handle Gavin at the shop. Between his DVDs, books, the bookshop and the toy shop at the nearby shopping mall, I figured he would be able to make it through the four hours without us.
On Saturday – the day before the movie – my MIL and FIL were heading out to my SIL’s shop and decided to take Gavin with them. Since it was the day before the movie, I figured it was a good idea to see how he managed without me. Suffice to say it was a disaster. Gavin howled in the car all the way to my SIL’s shop and made a huge nuisance of himself the entire time leaving both my ILs on edge by the time they came home.
I knew then that our movie date was precariously dangling on a fine thread just inches away from a razor sharp knife. If we didn’t figure something else out, we might as well burn our RM120 movie tickets. I bought Gavin three brand new DVDs – Thomas and Friends, Chugginton and Word World – all his favourites and at least three hours worth of entertainment. I felt semi confident that it would be a bribe enough to convince Gavin to let us leave the house without him. As to whether it would hold his attention until we got home, that was something I could not answer.
Then hubby had a brilliant inspiration. Call Kai Ma! Gavin loves his god-family, especially his god-brother. It was supposed to be a backup plan but once Gavin got wind of the idea, wild horses couldn’t stop the motion. I couldn’t believe how effective the suggestion of going to Kai Ma’s house was. As soon as he knew, it was all we could do just to reign him in long enough for us to pack our bags. We were barely up the driveway of Kai Ma’s house when Gavin began saying his “goodbyes”. I tried to walk him into the house and he kept telling me, “Bye bye, Mummy. You go now. Don’t follow me.” It was like he couldn’t wait to get rid of me!
If we were worried about being called out of the cinema early, it was wasted. According to Kai Ma, Gavin was very cooperative the entire afternoon. Looks like we know where to send Gavin the next time hubby and I want to go on a date…
Thank you Kai Yeah and Kai Mai – and of course R and D (Gavin’s god sister and brother) who kept him occupied for the afternoon.