Gavin appears to have developed a rather negative attitude towards difficult tasks and it is really starting to bug me. I hate that he often says he can’t do things even before he’s given it a go. In an effort to counter this negativity, I have been constantly talking to him about the importance of trying. I keep trying to reinforce that the outcome is not important and it doesn’t matter if he gets things wrongs. It is through our mistakes that we learn. What’s important is that we try and that we give it our best shot.
Since starting to talk to him about this, I’ve seen some improvement in his willingness to tackle tasks that he finds difficult. Although there’s still a lot of work to be done to improve his current attitude towards challenges, I feel heartened that we’re making some progress. I’ve also come to realise that these are the most important lessons that parents need to teach their children. It isn’t whether we can teach our children the alphabet or how to count to a hundred – these are all things children can learn at school. It is how we shape them as a person through the lessons about life that we teach them which are important. These are things that they don’t necessarily learn in school and it is our role as parents to make sure our children learn about them.
To make my life lessons more interesting, I’ve decided to use materials from Simple Truths which I have often enjoyed. They sell a lot of inspirational books covering many important lessons in life which I would really like to add to Gavin and Gareth’s bookshelf. Even if the messages are a little complicated right now, I don’t think it is too early to start introducing the concepts to Gavin. I’m sure that he will find the lessons beneficial when he is older and facing the trials and tribulations in life. At the very least, my aim is to teach him how important it is to give everything a try and to do his best regardless of what the outcome may be.
My first lesson for Gavin was from the Simple Truths book: “212 – The Extra Degree“.