There is a tendency for parents to treat the second child with less reverence and to offer less attention than they did with their first. Whether this is in part due to being more comfortable with the idea of being a parent and worrying less over trivial matters, or to the loss of the novelty factor of having a child, or the division of attention since there is another child to attend to (the older one), or perhaps just a combination of everything, the fact remains, the second child gets less of everything. There is less attention and less care – let’s face it because it’s true. We don’t rush over to the doctor over every tiny spot we see. We certainly don’t freak out over germs and the need to sterilise everything in sight. We also don’t take a snap shot of every movement frankly because we’ve been there and done that.
Being a second child myself, I try to make it a point to bring out the camera and take photos of Gareth but even I have to be honest and admit that I am not as diligent this time around as I was when I had Gavin. I guess the point about the photos really sticks out because I remember looking through our family photo albums as a child and wondering why there were so many more photos of my brother than there were of me as a baby. There were dozens of snaps of my brother taking a walk around the park and doing all those “firsts”, and well, quite frankly, all I had were a few baby snaps and the birthday pictures. I don’t want Gareth growing up to experience the same thing.
Recently, I came across a photo studio that featured pictures of babies taken in the Anne Geddes style. It was on display at a shop called “Picture Company” in 1Utama (and soon to open in The Gardens). They appear to have originated in the Philippines but they are sprouting up fast in Malaysia. They focus on portraits for families in a fun way.
Personally, I prefer the work of a couple of other freelance photographers – Jason Victor and Anna Rina. The only reason I would consider using a studio like The Picture Company is purely for their props. I haven’t decided what we’ll do yet, but I think I would definitely like to consider a round of professional photographs for the kids. This would appease my guilt for being rather neglectful in taking photos of Gareth. Of course I would include Gavin, too, because I can’t hurt his feelings by having only fun pictures of Gareth.
So what do you think? Jason, Anna or The Picture Company?